Perception is Reality

I had a friend that believed ones perception is ones reality. I’ve heard this statement before in my life and I don’t necessarily disagree with the premise. The problem that we are overlooking is that perception is skewed dramatically by childhood needs that were overlooked, parents that were critical or emotionally unavailable. Our perception is further skewed by the damage inflicted in our adult lives by our friends, coworkers and especially our romantic relationships. My friend meant to say that if she believed she was being mistreated by her boyfriend, then that is her reality and he needed to fix what he was doing wrong to change her reality.

My belief is that what you think is what you feel; is what you say; is what you do. You have control of your thoughts, however, controlling your thoughts requires focus and diligence on a daily and sometimes hourly basis. Changing your perception isn’t easy nor is it quick, but it is possible. The power that lies within your thoughts is strong. Learning to go against the grain or changing your thoughts from predominantly negative to predominantly positive is like swimming against the tide. To change from believing you are victim in your life to believing you have control of how people treat you is a powerful change of perception. To change beliefs that were instilled as a child that you are not good enough; cannot find love; unworthy; incapable; not pretty enough or smart enough, to something more along the lines of deserving; lovable; worthy; capable; beautiful; intelligent, is life-changing. Your thoughts are where it all begins.

Please feel free to comment ~ thanks for reading ~ Jen

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